My sister is outrageously comptetitive. We aren’t kids, we’re both in our 30’s. I started my own jewellery business & she got hold of my paperwork & ordered her own supplies (from my list of contacts) & then contacted all my customers & undercut me. She made a loss but she still managed to put me out of business.
She calls me a ’smug, arrogant b!tch’ & accuses me of bragging about things that I’ve never even done. I deliberately didn’t tell anyone when I passed my driving test as I knew how she would react but she called my driving instructor (she stole my mobile phone to get the number) & then told our mum that I was ‘rubbing her face in it’ but I wasn’t, I’d not even told anyone bcz I was scared of being accused of that in the first place!
Her husband made a pass at me & I told him to ‘get lost’ but she told our family that it was the other way around and then she faked a miscarriage & said that it was due to the stress of what I had done to her. She accused me of ‘murdering’ her unborn child but she wasn’t even pregnant! She has stolen the key to my house and placed female underwear in my bedroom & sent me ‘anonymous’ letters claiming that my husband is ‘having an affair’ & told our parents that the only reason I’m with my (Asian) husband is that I’m ‘not pretty enough to get a white man’
I’m at a loss. How can I deal with this? She’s driving me crazy I feel like I’m on the verge of a breakdown here… I can’t even reason with her as she seems like she’s out of touch with reality & I can’t get through to her. Why is she doing this? What should I do? It’s always been the same way though. She’s been like this since we were children. I’m 2 years older than her.
As for our parents, our father is a raging alcoholic & doesn’t even know what day it is, & our mother is dying of cancer. It’s days not weeks.
Our brother just says ‘Oh you know what she’s like’ but that doesn’t help at all. Her husband is a paedophile & she’s had her 5 children taken away bcz the law won’t allow them to be in the same house as him but she won’t leave him & I think she loves him more than anyone else. I do love her but I don’t know how to connect with her and make it work. At this rate I’m just going to cut her out of my life but our mum is dying and she wants us two to ‘get back together’ before she dies.