Should I be worried about my gf’s jealousy?
Hello. Lately I’ve noticed my gf’s tendency to get irritated by the attention I get from females. We’ve only been together for about 8 months. We’re both young (I’m 21 she’s 22). She’s a very pretty Brazilian girl. She often draws attention from males when she’s out shopping and stuff. I’m fine with that because I know nothing will come of it. I’m not a bad looking lad myself lol (sry if I sound cocky). I do get the odd flirtatious look from females.
A few months back a female client of mine phoned my personal mobile (Im a Fitness/Personal Instructor) instead of my company mobile. My client had a very badly swollen ankle and panicked by desperately trying get hold of me for some advice. I told her what was what and reassured her over the phone so she wouldn’t worry (that’s my job).
Now my gf was annoyed at this because it interrupted our time together and she said something about ‘wow anyone would think you were married to her the way you were talking’. I didn’t take it too seriously.
Now this past week-end we went out for a meal and the waitress made a compliment about my shirt and how it suited me. Amongst other things. From then on my gf seemed to be sulking a little. I tried to cheer her up by mocking myself about how I look in the shirt. But she wasn’t happy. After about 10 mins we just continued to enjoy our meal. When the waitress came back to clear up the table she asked ‘did you enjoy your meal and before I could even open my mouth my gf outbursted with quite a rude comment.
In the car I tried to take her up on that. We ended up arguing all the way back home. Before we arrived there was dead silence in the car she had tears down her cheeks. I tried to comfort her but she kept responding with ‘don’t’. When finally got her by the drive way she just slammed the car door and ran into her flat.
We’ve sorted it now. Would any girl be jealous in situations like this? Should I be worried? By the way she’s not jealous in a crazy/evil way so pls be easy on your answers. She’s lovely girl. Thank You all for taking the time to read it (sorry it’s so long I wanted you to get the overall picture).
It just sounds like you both have some growing up to do.
Yes i would be jealous. It was completely innapropriate for the waitress to comment on what you were wearing, no wonder your girlfriend was pissed off. If someone said that to my husband i would be pissed off. The reason your girlfriend is angry with you is because you didn’t tell the waitress that it was an innapropriate comment to make to a man in front of his girlfriend that is why she is mad with you.
As for the personal trainer thing. Of course she would be jealous if some woman phoned your personal phone. What were you doing giving out your personal number in the first place. You need to be more considerate of her feelings!!
she has every right to be mad you had a clint call you on your personal phone. think about being in her shoes… if she had some guy calling her you would probably be pretty upset too. the waitress flirting with you, that’s really not cool. she’s spending time with someone she care about and then all of a sudden she’s in competition. your girlfriend doesn’t sound crazy/evil, she sounds human.
maybe she doesnt like that u are getting more attention than her. Or, more likely, maybe she doesnt like the fact that perhaps you cant tell when a woman is hitting on you and, if you can, u dont tell them to fuck off when they do.
First of all, I think it is adorable that you posted on here for relationship advice! it shows you care.
Second, she seems a little too jealous.
The first thing-talking on the phone, I might have wondered for a second if the girl was pretty etc. But I would not have said anything to my boyfriend about it. That’s just a little insecurity that every girl has, but on the other hand-it is your job so she should have kept her mouth shut.
I think the second situation is pretty ridiculous. Obviously a waitress would not hit on you in front of your gf, she was trying to be nice. I compliment people all the time and never think twice about if they think I’m hitting on them (because I’m not). I definitely, DEFINITELY would not have said anything to her.
She seems to be a little dramatic-was this really a situation to cry over? You try to comfort her or see what’s wrong and she says "don’t" and storms off- she is a drama queen.
I would say have a serious conversation with her-not during an argument or when she’s upset- if this really bothers you. If you can put up with it, good luck, but it only gets worse. Women get more and more jealous, believe me. You should let her know how you feel now before it gets worse.
Good luck!